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Seven Signs That You Found Your Soul Friend

Reganne Ashley
Feb 12, 2018
4 min read

The end of 2017 was one of the most difficult times of my life and one of the best times of my life. I moved out of my parents house and started college, I got sick three times between September and December, I realized that it will take a lot more than being apart from my dad, for our relationship to get better, my autoimmune disorder was fluctuating like never before, I was told that one of the most important people in my life is having health problems, and my nose piercing got freaking gross so I had to take it out. Yup. Seventy bucks down the drain.

All of this wouldn’t seem so overwhelming if it had been over a longer time span, but for these experiences to occur within three months was an emotional rollercoaster that I could not have got through without my school family.

My school family consists of five people; Jhayden, Justin, Raphie, Amy and Pearl. These are five of the most down to earth, selfless, generous, kind, energetic and smart people that I have ever met. I’ve known Justin, Raph and Pearl for six years, but I was never close with them until we connected at college. Raphie is the friend of the group who is most likely to socialize with other people, so he introduced me to Jhayden and Amy, and my life has been so much better since.

I read a quote the other day that went something like this, “I like being alone. I have control over my own space. Therefore, in order to win me over, your presence has to be better than my solitude. You’re not competing with another person.

You’re competing with my comfort zone.”- Horacio Jones. My solitude is absolutely my most valued attribute. Being alone gives me time to recharge and think critically. It is my time to be creative and independent and daydream. I have never met any other person whose company I enjoy more than I enjoy being alone. That is, until I re-met Pearl and my life took a full three-sixty.

It was late November/early December when Pearl and I started working out together. We had met at a basketball training facility six years prior when we were in seventh grade. Back then, I was an unconfident little twelve year old who had no idea how to make friends. So, despite her being incredibly nice to me, we never hit it off.

I remember the exact moment that I felt our acquaintanceship turn to friendship. And, ever since then, we’ve been joined at the hip. Never in my life have I made so many inside jokes with someone within such a short amount of time. We have made a movie trailer, became vegan, started going to the gym everyday, and become even more energized and weird than we were before.

I always thought that I was the best version of myself in my solitude, but thanks to Pearl, I realized that the best version of myself hadn’t come out yet. Through our friendship, I have become more compassionate, friendly, strong, outgoing, silly, and confident. Her past has made her a warrior, and someone who I admire and look up to SO MUCH.

I believe that people come into our lives for a reason, and I know that Pear came into my life to teach me how to be a fighter, how to be empathetic and more creative and nice. She is a whole mix of strength, humor, kindness and sass, embodying many of the traits that I aspire to have! She came into my life when I was least expecting her, but when I needed her the most.

Everyone has a soul sister or a soul friend (or maybe two or three). Someone who is perfectly compatible with them. So, here are seven signs that you have met them.

They make you laugh until you cry. Or pee. Nuff said.
You would rather be with them than be by yourself. No matter what you do, it’s ALWAYS a fun time.
They make you want to be a better person. Their positive attitude and inspiring personality HYPE YOU UP and makes you realize that they are your number one fan.
You are the best version of yourself when you are with them.
You can be yourself around them. And I mean reallyyy be yourself. From ugly crying with them, to dancing crazy with them, you are in a 100% judgement free zone with someone who will not only stand by you, but join in with you.
They tell it how it is. No bullshitting, no drama. If your butt doesn’t look good in those pants, they’ll tell you. If the guy you’re talking to is no good, they’ll tell you.
They have your back no matter what. You don’t have to question if they will stand up for you in a situation where you aren’t there, you just know that they will. Y’all are soul friends, you have no worries.